Bartenders’ livelihoods depend on being nice to customers (tips!), but to the untrained libido, it can be downright impossible to tell if the flirtation is genuine or a calculated move of professional interest. The lines between “What a nice bartender!” and “Oh my God, this girl wants to bang me,” are often blurred by a pleasant conversation… and a half-dozen pints. But all hope is not lost, friends. As Amy S., a one-time Hooters bartender, said, “To be totally honest, I’ve taken home a guy from every bar I’ve worked at, at least once.”
I talked to five barkeeps (plus a psychologist!) to see how you can tell if these professionals are gunning for more than just the gratuity. So read on to learn about my self-developed, patent-pending P.A.N.D.A.S.™ Point System, which will easily help you figure out if it’s appropriate to give them your number. Just don’t write said number on the receipt… unless you get off on crippling rejection.
There are six things you need to look out for
All the bartenders I talked to agreed on these six flirting facts. I call it the P.A.N.D.A.S™ Point System, and you need a combined score of at least 10 before you can be sure your ‘tender is for real. Bring your legal pads to the bars, boys!
Physical contact (one point)
“One of my co-workers has this move, he used to leave the bar and brush past a girl he was trying to pick up, and put his hand on her shoulder when he walked around her. He said it worked 50% of the time… which might be a stretch,” said my brother Tripp Fulton, who was a bartender for five years in Baltimore, Maryland at a smatter of fine (and not-so-fine) establishments.
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